How to Appreciate Your Challenges
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Mike Robbins
Mike Robbins is an expert in success, teamwork, and the power of appreciation. As a former professional baseball player and Internet advertising sales executive, as well as a life-long student of personal development, Mike brings a varied and impressive background to the clients with whom he works. Through his keynotes, seminars, writing, and consulting, Mike empowers individuals, teams, and organizations to be more productive, appreciative, and successful. He is the author of the audio program, The Power of Appreciation, a contributing author of Chicken Soup for the Single Parent’s Soul, and the author of the new best selling book, Focus on the Good Stuff (Hardcover, Jossey-Bass/Wiley). Mike has been featured in Forbes, on the Oprah and Friends radio network, and on NBC. He is a member of the National Speakers Association (NSA) and is a Certified Speaking Professional (CSP), NSA’s highest earned designation. Mike lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with his wife Michelle and their young daughters Samantha and Annarose. Visit http://www.focusonthegoodstuff.com/ for additional information. By Mike Robbins
Published on 02/16/2011
Are you facing challenges in your life or your business right now? These days, there are some real challenges facing many of us - at work, at home, in relationships, with money, with family, with housing situations, and much more. The challenges themselves, even the most difficult ones, aren't usually the real issue; it's our relationship to them that causes us the most difficulty and suffering.
How to Appreciate Your Challenges
Are you facing challenges in your life or your business right now? These days, there are some real challenges facing many of us - at work, at home, in relationships, with money, with family, with housing situations, and much more.
The challenges themselves, even the most difficult ones, aren't usually the real issue; it's our relationship to them that causes us the most difficulty and suffering. Think of what your life, your relationships, and your career would be like if you didn't complain about or resist challenges when they showed up? For most of us, myself included, this would make things very different and much more enjoyable.
Resisting, complaining about, or even feeling sorry for ourselves about the "bad" things that are happening is totally normal and what we're often encouraged to do by people around us and our culture in general - whether we do it out loud with others or just in our own heads. However, these things, while understandable, don't address the real issues, the genuine emotions we're experiencing, or make things better for us.
I'm not advocating that we pretend everything is "fine" when it isn't in some phony, Pollyanna way - that's denial, which won't help us either. However, the question in life isn't whether or not we'll face challenges, the question is what will we do and how will we respond in the face of the challenges that arise? Do we avoid really dealing with difficult things and learning from them by playing the role of the victim and not acknowledging our true feelings about them or do we face them directly, acknowledge our emotions, and choose to grow from the experience? It's always up to us.
On our path of life, growth, and success, we all encounter difficulties. Many of the most successful and fulfilled people who've ever walked the planet have faced incredible obstcles. What if we actually appreciated these challenges? Remember, appreciating something doesn't necessarily mean we like or enjoy it. Appreciation means that we recognize the value of it.
Here's a list of some things we can appreciate when things get tough:
Action: What You Can Do
Make a list of some of the biggest challenges in your life right now. What can you appreciate about each of these difficulties? What are you learning from them? What are you able to appreciate in yourself and your life because of these things?
If you look for it, you'll be able to find many things to appreciate about every one of them. Appreciating our challenges can allow us to accept them, learn from them, and ultimately take back our power from them. Doing this reminds us that we're the authors of our lives - not the circumstances we're facing.
The challenges themselves, even the most difficult ones, aren't usually the real issue; it's our relationship to them that causes us the most difficulty and suffering. Think of what your life, your relationships, and your career would be like if you didn't complain about or resist challenges when they showed up? For most of us, myself included, this would make things very different and much more enjoyable.
Resisting, complaining about, or even feeling sorry for ourselves about the "bad" things that are happening is totally normal and what we're often encouraged to do by people around us and our culture in general - whether we do it out loud with others or just in our own heads. However, these things, while understandable, don't address the real issues, the genuine emotions we're experiencing, or make things better for us.
I'm not advocating that we pretend everything is "fine" when it isn't in some phony, Pollyanna way - that's denial, which won't help us either. However, the question in life isn't whether or not we'll face challenges, the question is what will we do and how will we respond in the face of the challenges that arise? Do we avoid really dealing with difficult things and learning from them by playing the role of the victim and not acknowledging our true feelings about them or do we face them directly, acknowledge our emotions, and choose to grow from the experience? It's always up to us.
On our path of life, growth, and success, we all encounter difficulties. Many of the most successful and fulfilled people who've ever walked the planet have faced incredible obstcles. What if we actually appreciated these challenges? Remember, appreciating something doesn't necessarily mean we like or enjoy it. Appreciation means that we recognize the value of it.
Here's a list of some things we can appreciate when things get tough:
- Challenges often give us important feedback about where and who we are
- Challenges give us contrast and can help us appreciate things when they get easier
- Challenges can allow us to wake up and notice all the good things that are happening that we weren't paying attention to
- Challenges are almost always a great opportunity for learning, growth, and improvement
- Challenges give us an opportunity to get in touch with, take responsibility for, and express our real emotions
Action: What You Can Do
Make a list of some of the biggest challenges in your life right now. What can you appreciate about each of these difficulties? What are you learning from them? What are you able to appreciate in yourself and your life because of these things?
If you look for it, you'll be able to find many things to appreciate about every one of them. Appreciating our challenges can allow us to accept them, learn from them, and ultimately take back our power from them. Doing this reminds us that we're the authors of our lives - not the circumstances we're facing.