Five Secrets for Turning Failure into Success in Six Months
by Richard Fenton
What if, starting today, the word 'no' didn't stop you anymore?
What if every time you heard the word no, you became stronger, more powerful,
and more resilient?
What if the greatest success strategy in the world was not to go for yes,
but to go for no?
Well, it is.
The word 'no' doesn't have to debilitate you. In fact, it can empower you
to achieve a whole new level of greatness you never dreamed possible. You
might think this is just a sales strategy. It is a sales strategy. But, it's
a life philosophy too.
Whether we define ourselves as salespeople or not, we are all engaged in
the sales process. We all must overcome fears of failure and rejection to
be successful and achieve what we want.
Here are My Top Five Secrets to Help You Turn Failure
into Success Immediately!
- Change your mental model of "success" and "failure."
Most people operate with the following mental model:
SUCCESS <== YOU ==> FAILURE
They see themselves in the middle, with success on one end and failure on
the other. They do everything they can to move toward success and away from
failure. But, what if you reconfigured that model?
YOU ==>FAILURE ==>SUCCESS
Instead of viewing failure as something to be avoided, turn it into a "stepping-stone"
on the path to success and gratification. In other words: Success is the
destination. Failure is how you get there.
To achieve significant success in today's world, failure is not just a possibility.
It's a requirement. We must see success and failure for what they truly
are. They're not opposites, but instead opposite sides of the same coin.
- Intentionally increase your failure rate.
If it's true that the more we fail, the more we succeed (and it is), then
your immediate goal should be to intentionally increase your failure rate!
With this thought in mind, you're succeeding even when you fail. Yes, this
is a counter-intuitive, reverse thinking philosophy. But trust me, it works!
Intentionally increasing failure is the basis for the "Go for No" concept.
"Go for No" means the more people tell you "no," the closer you will get
to ultimate success. In other words, the more people telling you no now,
the more people will say yes in the long term. If they actually counted
the number of times they hear "no" during a typical day or week, most people
would be shocked to see how low the number actually is. Go ahead and try
- Set "No" goals.
Everyone sets success goals. But how about setting goals for the number
of times we fail? For example, rather than a salesperson setting the goal
of having two prospects say "yes" to them, they set the goal of being rejected
(hearing "no") 10 times. Imagine the first two prospects they called on
said, "Yes!" Rather than being done (having hit their "yes" goal), they'd
actually be behind because they still have 10 no's to go!
The other exciting aspect of this strategy is how it keeps people "in the
game" when they're "red hot!" If all you have is yes goals and then you
slow down (or quit) when you're successful, the hot streak ends.
But if you keep going when the yeses of life are falling at your feet, the
sky is the limit!
- Celebrate your failures, not just your successes.
It's natural to be excited about our successes. Yes, you want to celebrate
them. Yes, you want to give yourself a reward or even throw a party.
But, if the key to success is to increase our failures, then it only makes
sense to celebrate our set backs as well. Yes, you heard right: if someone
turns you down, celebrate it!
When is the last time you rewarded yourself for failing? Probably never!
Instead of mentally punishing yourself for not succeeding, buy yourself
an ice cream cone and say, "I'm one step closer to success!" Stop letting
failure have the negative hold it has on your thoughts and emotions.
- See courage as a "muscle."
If failure is a vehicle that can take you to success, then courage
is the fuel! Courage is a muscle. And, like any muscle, you must develop
and strengthen it with lots of exercise.
As the saying goes: Use it, or lose it. It's no different with courage.
Use and develop your "courage muscle" by looking fear in the eye and taking
action anyway. Each time you take action, the courage muscle gets stronger.
When you don't, it atrophies. And before you know it your courage is gone.
But it doesn't have to be this way. All the courage you could ever want
or need to achieve every goal you have is already in you, just waiting for
you to take action.
So, change your mental models, intentionally increase your failure rate,
set "no" goals, celebrate your failures and see courage as a muscle, and you'll
significantly increase your success rate in six months guaranteed. Remember,
this strategy is not just a sales strategy. It is not just for businesses.
It's for every aspect of your personal and professional lives.
Richard Fenton is the author of "Go for No!" a short, powerful story
written specifically for organizations and professionals just like you who
must learn how to face failure and rejection to be successful. For more free
cutting edge ideas and strategies to help you achieve courageous breakthrough
performance, accelerate your success and double, triple or even quadruple
your sales go to: http://www.goforno.com
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