Breaking Old Habits
by Mary J. Lore


Have you noticed that as you move into the holiday season, old, familiar patterns emerge? For example, when you get together with family and friends, do you revert to a certain dynamic? Perhaps you feel sad and alone at the holidays, or maybe you often get sick or worry about money. There’s a reason that we have the same experiences over and over again, and with a little self-awareness, a little self-mastery and a little being-on-purpose, we can break those patterns.

Your mind is constantly searching for its focus. That focus is chosen based on the way your brain has been wired and the strength of the wiring. In turn, that wiring is based on your experiences — the emotions you may have felt, the meaning you attached to the experience and the conclusions you drew as those experiences occurred. The more you feel and think a certain way, the stronger that wiring becomes.

Your mind looks for, and focuses on, things that are consistent with your experience. In other words, your mind perceives a reality that is consistent with your experience. Then it stores this reality and inevitably reinforces the experience. So if your mind chooses a focus based on experience, and what you focus on is what you perceive to be reality, it’s no wonder that you fall into old, familiar patterns.

Even though that’s how your mind works, you are in control. You are in control of your thoughts. You are in control of your focus. You are in control of your mind. You are the one observing your thoughts. We have the ability to choose to utilize or discard what our minds present to us.

Remember that your brain is a tool, just as a computer is a tool. Your brain’s job is to take in information, process it, store it and retrieve it. You can choose to utilize the information offered by your brain; to control and direct the focus of your mind, and see and experience a reality that is very different from your old patterns.

This is a gentle reminder to choose your intentions for this holiday season. Ask yourself powerful questions in order to move toward the fulfillment of your intentions. Have powerful statements ready for those moments when you are challenged by old patterns, and be thankful for the ability to choose your thoughts.

Continued success!


The Author

Mary Lore Managing Thought

Mary Lore founded Managing Thought LLC in 2002 to help individuals, organizations, leaders and their management teams develop self-awareness and change their way of life and how they conduct business to attain long-lasting success. She is an internationally recognized leader, public speaker and executive mentor. For additional information, keynotes and workshops please visit .

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