Characteristics to Help
"Why am I not happy?" "Why is life a struggle?" "Why doesn't work, work?" We probe our soul with questions like these, but we will never hear the answers if we don't take time off in our hectic days to listen. Unless we slow down and take a deep breath, we cannot hear the subtle responses that come from within.
As we get older, the questions about the nature and quality of life come up. By then, though, we are so mired in the car payments and the mortgage and the daily routine, and we are so used to looking for answers outside ourselves, that we fail to recognize the simple truth: We need to find enough quiet space so that we can listen to the answers locked deep inside. We need to stop and let them surface.
Once we take that time, we can reflect on all we have done and all we hope to do, and decide if we are living the life we want or if, instead, it was programmed for us by others. Only then can we listen to our own voice, our own intuition, our own inner wisdom. Only than can we tap into our inherent skills, talents and inner creativity, which form the work for which we were individually designed. Then we will truly reap the rewards of joy and fulfillment as well as a paycheck.
Afterward, when we go back to our busy life, we find that we are whole beings again, not walking machines. If we have chosen to take a break from our careers, the work we choose when we return will be right and satisfying.
Regardless of how we use it, time goes by and then it's gone. The combined power of every ruler in the world could not change that by decree. So, in the end, the only thing that counts is how we used the time. Is what we're doing meaningful enough that if we were still doing it 10 or 15 years from now, we would be satisfied with that?
If you just keep going the way you are, ask yourself what you will miss and how it will affect you and the ones you love. If you are losing some of your spirit every year, what kind of husband, wife, father, mother or friend will you end up as after half a lifetime goes by? If you need to take time off to stop the downward momentum, isn't it worth it?
It takes time and perseverance to find the work and life of your dreams. Here are some characteristics to cultivate that will support you:
Vision -- great clarity about what you want.
Strong intention -- determination to get what you want.
Unwavering belief -- a belief so strong that it stands up against challenges.
Action approach -- know what you need to do and do it.
Focus -- stay on course.
Faith -- truly believe you will get it.
Gloria Dunn is President, Wiser Ways to Work®, and a speaker, corporate trainer, retreat facilitator, organizational behavior specialist and consultant. She develops winning corporate cultures by teaching leaders to lead, managers to manage, and work teams to play. Gloria is the author of "From Making a Living to Having a Life." You can reach Gloria at email@example.com or www.workingchallenged.com.