Making New Year's Resolutions
by Susan Dunn
Making resolutions means resolving to do something, committing to do something.
In Emotional Intelligence terms this is called Intentionality. It means saying
what you mean, and meaning what you say. What are your intentions for your
life this coming year? What do you intend to do to make this happen?
Here are some tips for making resolutions that WORK this year.
- Put your resolutions in writing.
Show them to someone - spouse, friend, coach. Post them on the office wall,
refrigerator and dashboard. Send a copy to your coach.
- Resolve to learn something new.
Whatever your field, learning something new is the best way to keep yourself
growing and on the competitive edge. Learn how to do your own website, learn
how to create an ezine, learn a new language, take an accounting course,
get an MBA. Do everything you can to increase your knowledge; it will make
you more profitable, more marketable, and more desirable in today's market
climate. Itís also key to Resilience in midlife.
- Increase your emotional intelligence.
Chances are you're on top of the skills and knowledge in your field. If
you're a doctor or therapist, you take the mandatory continuing education.
If you're in business, you're adding an MBA or taking advantage of the great
online and weekend degree opportunities. But are you increasing your emotional
Emotional Intelligence accounts more for your success and happiness than
your IQ. It accounts for the majority of promotions and firings. Take an
Internet course and get coaching in emotional intelligence. It crosses all
categories and fields, benefiting both your work and personal life now and
in the future.
Check out the courses on my website.
- Make your last resolution -- TAKE ACTION!
Writing down your resolutions will trigger your innate goal-accomplishment
drives, but taking action is essential. Take action on every resolution
within 30 days after writing them.
- Get organized.
Use an Accountability System for your resolutions! Accountability Systems
work. I use the Gooding Accountability System myself and for my clients.
For most of us it's the initial organization and then tracking the follow-through.
The more you've got going on, the more there is to keep track of. An Accountability
System makes this easier for you to accomplish. Use one for your resolutions.
- You can make your resolutions general as long as you include incremental
action steps as subpoints.
If your list reads Lose Weight, Make More Money, and Find a Wife you're
being so vague you're defeating the purpose. It isn't a WISH LIST, it's
a list of things you intend to accomplish. Make that "Lose 20 lbs. by April
1 by exercising 30 minutes every day, eating less than 100 grams of fat
a day, eliminating sweets" and whatever else will get you to your goal.
- Compare your list to last year's list.
If it's the same, you're in trouble and you need to face up to it. Something
isn't working for you, and if you keep doing what you've been doing, you'll
keep getting what you've been getting. If you've had "Find a Career I Love"
for 3 years in a row, deal with it. Either acknowledge you're not going
to do it, and take it off your list, or marshal the forces you need to make
it happen - get a coach, for instance. There's nothing more demoralizing
than a goal you never achieve.
Making the right list of resolutions will make for a better New Year for
Susan Dunn is a personal and professional development coach ready to help
you achieve your goals. Visit her on the web at www.susandunn.cc
and e-mail: email@example.com
to get started TODAY.
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